Disclaimer
I care about the people who visit this site immensely, but there are a few ground rules and some things I have to let you know for your own safety and mine.
I am not a counsellor, nor a therapist. I’m not even an expert in this field. I’m just someone with lived experience. I am trained as a helper, which means I can listen and signpost, but my skills are very limited. If you disclose anything to me, most likely I will send you to someone who can really help you.
If you get in touch & disclose any legal implications, or I fear for your safety (or safety of others) I have a duty of care to escalate this. This would be discussed with you first.
I am not available 24/7, but if you comment or get in touch I will answer as soon as I can. If you need someone to talk to please use a helpline instead. (They’re WAY better than me anyway.)
This blog is full of resources, information, bits of advice and guidance that helped me. Every person is different, so this isn’t a one size fits all guide to healing from trauma. It may not work for you – but that’s ok. We will find something that does 🙂
I don’t mean to cause any offense or harm on this blog, but if something I’ve said or shared is showing my cis-het whiteness (e.g. something linked to racism, transphobia etc) PLEASE let me know as I’m still learning and I want to do better. It’s not your job to educate me, but I do want to be held accountable. As I said, this isn’t an expert guide – this is just a person with lived experience. I will be sharing my personal opinions, some of which you may not agree with - and that’s cool. Let’s talk about it!
I cannot offer any life advice or guidance (for example, ‘is my partner abusive?’). This is something you’d need to get help from a professional. I can only talk about my own experience or signpost you to the pros.
I am human – a traumatised one - so words hurt. I will be deleting any offensive, judgmental or harsh comments. I am creating this blog as a safe space to help others – not to cause more hatred in the world. So please be nice yeah.
If you are at crisis or are unable to keep yourself safe please call 116 123 or 999.
You can absolutely share my work with others (in fact it’s encouraged) but please don’t pass any of my work as your own.
Remember you’re a pure gorgeous human who deserves the best, which is why these disclaimers are in place. You are important to me. x